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JEALOUS,This is a very difficult thing for us to agree.If anyone says "you're jealous of someone" we don't agree to it.But humans in fact have a minute amount of jealousy.But why do we feel envy towards our friends success??Is there any way to get rid of it???

Here's a real life example of a person,who is simple and a common man.

"I wanted my peers to succeed as long as they didn't see more success than I did. I envy the people who are truly happy for the people around them when they succeed. That's not me. I'm competitive to a fault. 

Other people's success makes me feel insecure. Other people's success makes me think about my mistakes and my failures and my shortcomings. 

Some days the only thing I want to do is sleep and escape. 

Other days I wonder if it will ever work out...or will I just drift through life engaging in one venture after another and then die...without ever achieving anything major while my friends are climbing the ranks at fortune 500 companies. 

It is scary and it was these types of thoughts that ruined my life. 

It was one day in particular. My friend landed a job at Microsoft and another friend landed a job at Google. 

They were thrilled and for good reason. Their life would soon be paved with white picket fences and gated communities. And it hurt me...because my life was one big blur at the time. 

I had no idea where I was going. I was engaged in a variety of different fields, fearful to commit to one. I was driving the car of life with my foot on the break and they were driving the car of life with their foot on the gas. It ruined my day. 

Don't get me wrong, I was happy for them. They deserved those jobs. But it made me feel like crap. 

It's the old crab analogy. Every time a crab tries to get out of the bucket, another crab pulls it down. 

I was the crab trying to pull the other crab down, but it wasn't working. The crab has escaped and now I was left alone in this dark bucket and I was afraid. I saw no light.

I spent days and weeks and months in the bucket. Contemplating and wishing and thinking. 

I was tired of seeing the people around me doing well while I was trying to make the improbable, probable. They were making big money and I was sleeping on couches. 

I had enough. I decided to join them. And I did. I climbed out of the bucket and got a corporate job. 

I wasn't made for the corporate grind, but I sacrificed myself. I killed the part of me that lived for adventure and replaced that portion with somebody who craved stability and comfort. I never did care for stability and comfort, but I made myself care.

I buried my dreams and I settled. I conformed and lowered the brightness on my life until I saw only black and white. 

My time at a corporate job can be summarized by a quote from Charles Bukowski...

"How in the hell could a man enjoy being awakened at 6:30 am by an alarm clock, leap out of bed, dress, force-feed, shit, piss, brush teeth and hair, and fight traffic to get to a place where essentially you made lots of money for somebody else and were asked to be grateful for the opportunity to do so?"

I would look in the mirror and a slave would look back. I couldn't look myself in the eye anymore because I had done what I never wanted to do, settle and embrace mediocrity. 

Mediocrity was my greatest fear and now I had become just like them.

As a young teen I would take the train early in the morning just so I could see the dull faces connected to lifeless bodies that traveled to jobs that were poisoning their blood. 

I made a vow to never turn into one of them. But now here I was...taking the same train...with the same dull look on my face...as I headed to a job that was stabbing me dead in the heart. 

And that was the root cause of my misery. I would be cranky all the time. Pissed off at the world and I would take it out on the people I loved the most. The reason reason I was cranky was because I had buried my dreams, not because my sister forgot to put the lid on the milk. 

I traded my dreams for a measly salary because that's what I saw everyone else do. I didn't want to get left behind so I did the same. I hated every minute of it because I was no longer in control. I gave up the driver seat for the passenger seat...because of my jealousy and envy towards the success of others.

And this, my friend, is the new form of slavery. Spending the prime years of your life doing stuff you hate...because the success of others makes you feel insecure. 

I don't know about you, but I'm not here to spend my life working away on tasks that aren't going to matter two weeks from now. I'm not here to help build my boss's life, I'm here to build my own life. 

If that means dying without ever achieving anything major, so be it. I'll take that risk. I wish I accepted this before I lost my soul working a dead end job." 

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Lesson: Every life is special in the sense that it is different. I can't compete with you. And you can't compete with me. The only person I can compete with is the person I was yesterday. Competing with others not only a waste of time but it is a waste of life...because it will get you offtrack and will have you doing stuff you hate...just so you can keep up with the crowd. Don't compete with the crowd. Run in the opposite direction with a smile on your face.

My product is costly!!!!!

How much property do you have???This is the question asked in any marriage proposals.Right!!!Yeah,Not only for it but also during many occasions.Money always matters to people.But there are many things which the person losses when he is running after money for his whole life.

Okay,Lets take Bill Gates,"THE WORLD'S RICHEST PERSON".Of course he has got all the fame and everything.But there is a lot that he had missed and is missing.He couldn't tell it now.But there are past histories which Even he know's whether he have satisfaction in the way he leads his life.One of the famous Phone and craziest is APPLE.Apple founder Steve jobs said the bitterest truth that he had not enjoyed his life even a bit.

He may have died before 5 years,but he seemed to have left the nuggets of wisdom for us.Lets see it in his words.

Steve Jobs’ Last Words

I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.

However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.

At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.

In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…

Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…

Should be something that is more important:
Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days

Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth.

The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me. What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.

That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.

Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.

What is the most expensive bed in the world? Sick bed…
You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.

Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life.

When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – Book of Healthy Life.

Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends.
Treat yourself well. Cherish others.

This is what everyone thinks after losing.So,now are you leading a satisfied life,this is a questionnaire just think,Its a provocation,not any threat.

                                 
Just make them on your own.!!:::)

TELL I MISS U,TO PEOPLE U CARE....PLEASE,DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENS NEXT SEC!!!!!!!!

Guys,Guys!!!!Did you miss anyone sooooo badly??What do you feel at that instinct??When you;re missing it stated that something wrong might have happened  between you and that fellow,Right!!

Here it is.We have many people coming across and going in our life.We can't be with them all the time,But there is a little chance of being very nice to them,the days we were together.There is an interesting thing going on here,if we observe.If we were very happy in a relationship with someone,It may be your parents,siblings or your partners,you do not bother about them much.But once you have any gap in relationship,you go on thinking about them only.This is absolutely true.If you don't feel so once check it out.

Just think of a member who is not with you and assess it.Something hell might have happened between you two,But just analyse your status.We have many children yelling at their parents at home out of frustration But they will realize once they face the same situation.Then whats the use of repenting.We are gonna some times loose that person without expressing our feelings towards them.

People,Be Careful in telling someone what you feel,Because time goes on and you cant predict what is gonna happen in next minute.Kindly Behave very nicely to each and every individual and enjoy the sweetest life you have.


We miss someone when we truly love someone no matter whether the other one loves you back or not. Also when we realize the importance of someone we start missing them.

We all miss a friend, closed ones, or our beloved when they go away from us. Some go in form of physical existence on earth, and some go, just because they can't or don't want to connect with us once again. Indeed death of them is more painful. But what if they are still alive and can't connect to us. Because something happened and it all finished. Relationships undergo modifications in time.

No body comes in our life by chance,Everyone is meant to cross our path for a reason

I think, people don't forget people with whom they have spent some part of their life because sooner or later they become a part of our life. The memory loads when we are with them.

Just like while we copy a file to USB, it shows the Copying... window and when it finishes it closes automatically.

The same happens with us, when they are with us we collect memories unknowingly and when it all ends. It shows its nature. The memory stays and keep triggering back on certain situations. The feelings for them can change later but the effect will remain always.

Sometimes you miss your Grandparents, and sometimes them whom you loved so much. Former will leave us soon because they have grown old. But later are still there. If they did good to you, you miss them because they made you happy and if bad, you miss them, yes you miss them don't say no because they gave you experiences.

So, Losing someone either in physical form or in any other gives pain because then you lose a part of yourself.Just like that, when they go away from us we lose an invisible part of our body or heart.And always remember:-

Never blame anyone in life,

because good one's gives happiness,

and bad one's lessons and experiences.

----------This is for every indiviual  who have crossed you in your life:)))

Disgusting people.,Not getting words to describe

Why do people go after others??If they seem to be nice or if they are thankful to them or some other reason it might be.But why to care  and go after people who don't even know you or care about you.The same happens in many situations.

We have many great people in this world.And they deserve the following and achievements.But why should it effect other people.There are many ways in which you can express your affection towards them without affecting a normal person.The same happens when politicians or cine stars come into public.Even though they do not get involved, some rude bastards who doesn't care about the nation get into idiotic tasks.